From One Woman to Another…
Ladies, being a parent (whether to our own children or to other people’s children) is no easy task. Hands down it’s one of the most difficult and rewarding things to do. It’s not for the faint of heart. Sometimes, you can feel like you’re just not enough like it’s too much for you and you’re not cut out to be a parent.
After my second baby I really let my health decline. I ate the SAD diet, got up to 185 lbs, stopped exercising…it was bad. When I got pregnant with my third child I made the decision that I was going to make health and happiness a priority in my life (not an afterthought) so that my children could grow up having the best of me.
Putting myself first has allowed me to be a better mommy. I am kinder and more patient, and I have more energy so I can be a more present and loving mom.
Here are my TOP 5 tips to becoming a happier and healthier parent:
1. Daily Affirmations!
You can’t expect to be present and attentive if you’re not affirming yourself, and loving yourself with positive words. If you’re speaking negatively about yourself to yourself, the residual is going to be you hating yourself and being only a little present for your kids.
We put a lot of expectations on ourselves as parents. What’s worse is that EVERYONE has advice about how you should feel, what you should do or not do… It can be so overwhelming.
But, the most important thing that you need to know is that you have every right to love and accept yourself and to ask for help.
Some days I feel so overwhelmed. Well, most days now that I’ve had my 8th baby. I love my children more than anything, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t those days where I feel like throwing the towel in. Where you get woken up at 3 am by a child who wet the bed, then 5 am another child wakes up barfing at your door, then 6 am rolls around with another child sick with a fever, and then of course the baby starts crying and needs to be fed and the day hasn’t even begun and you are already exhausted physically and emotionally! We’ve all had these days, right? Please tell me I’m not the only one!
So it is extremely necessary to tell yourself positive things, and to remind yourself, “I can’t do this.”
Here’s my personal “I AM…” Affirmation List:
I Am an Amazing Mom.
I Am Patient.
I Am Kind.
I Am Loving.
I Am Loved.
I Am Powerful.
I Am Confident.
I Work Hard.
I Make No Excuses.
I Get It Done.
I Love Myself.
I Am a VeganBossLady.
2. SLEEP BABY SLEEP!
I know this is that “Haha, you’re funny Jocelyn,” moment for every mom. I’m pretty sure I’m not getting enough sleep. Definitely not getting my 8 hours in at night, and it’s been that way for the past 20 years (when I had my first baby).
Over 60-percent of parents with young children get less than four hours of sleep each night. But, I’m sure every parent with a baby knows this already.
The real question is, what can you do about it?
Sometimes it’s re-working your schedule to fit in those short, 15 to 30 minute power naps, which is more than enough time to feel re-energized and refreshed. In fact, shorter naps will give you more energy and won’t leave you feeling groggy. Power naps are a very real thing!
But, remember, it’s still really important to get at least eight hours of sleep every night. Sometimes going to bed earlier, disconnecting from technology two hours before bed, and even taking a natural sleep aid supplement like melatonin or magnesium can help you get to sleep and stay asleep all night.
In our house we even tag team who gets to go to bed earlier and who gets to stay up to make sure all the kids go to bed…which really is an exhausting job with so many little ones! But by tag teaming, at least one of us gets 8 hours of sleep to power through the next day while the other one gets the turn to go to bed early.
3. Eat Better!
Besides getting enough sleep, a great way to feel happy and be healthy is to eat food that is good for your body — again, much easier said than done!
I’m not saying to never eat burgers or cake ever again, but you definitely need to make a habit of adding vegetables to your daily diet and learn to cut back on fatty or sugary foods. What you put into your body will play a HUGE factor in determining how much energy you will have; so make sure you are fueling your body with that in mind.
I know how hard it is to find time for things like eating healthy when you have so many things already on your calendar. That’s why I created my Raw Vegan Secrets recipe book, meal plan, and grocery list… so you don’t have to worry about finding healthy recipes or coming up with a plan. This mama of 8 who has OVER 20 years experience doing this with children in tow has taken care of it for you! Check it out here.
4. Move Your Cutie-Bootie!
Whether you’re at home on your couch or at work, you need to be moving.
You don’t need a gym membership, you don’t need a bunch of exercise equipment.
All you need is determination and a few minutes.
Do some jumping jacks or toe taps. RUN up and down the stairs once, or drop and do some stretches and push-ups.
Start by just going for a short ten minute power walk with your little ones. What I love doing is heading over to the park with the kids and letting them play and get their exercise while I run laps around the playground area. WIN-WIN!
So, if you’re thinking to yourself…
I need to go work out.
I need to run the errands.
I need to go clean the kitchen.
I need to go finish the chores.
But, I just don’t have the time to do any of those things.
You need to JUMP up out of your seat and get your blood flowing in your body.
If you’d like some great at-home workouts CLICK HERE.
5. Don’t Let The Scale Define Your Worth!
The scale is one of the BIGGEST LIES the weight loss industry ever came up with and it’s been DESTROYING your progress since day one. As someone who has lost over 180 pounds over the course of my 8 pregnancies- I am TELLING YOU that this LIE is holding you back.
It used to hold me back, I would jump on the scale so often, and would always be discouraged by what I saw. But, after I learned the truth, I made a change, and I used other means of tracking my progress like how I was feeling and my overall mood, how my clothes were fitting, and how much I was able to lift in my weight training.
Now, it’s time for you to do the same thing!
The scale doesn’t report how many inches you’ve lost, how many clothings sizes you’ve dropped, how much better you feel, how much more active you are.
All the scale can really offer you is a superficial report that will make you more discouraged.
So don’t let the number on the scale define who you are or how awesome you’re doing!
I hope these steps help you find the health and happiness you deserve.
Jocelyn “One Busy Mama” Morris
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